Today’s post is a little shorter as we are on vacation but I wanted to write about something that is so important and often overlooked. Do you remember the last time you had a date night? Or even a date day? Contrary to what many people think, date night does not have to mean that your kids go away somewhere overnight. That is nice, but not always necessary if you can’t find an overnight sitter. Simply going to dinner is considered a date night. Just time without the kids.
Sometimes I dislike planning date night, but you know what, if I want to have a happy marriage that is what it takes. It is so easy to fall into the mom and dad mode when you have a baby. Especially in the beginning when you feel like you need to spend every single sleep deprived moment with the new addition. It is so important to still have the roles of husband and wife.
You don’t have to spend a lot of money to go on date night if you are on a budget. My husband and I had a really fun date night once. We took $6 and went to the dollar store. Each of us got $3 to spend on the other and we had to find 1. Something that matches your spouses personality 2. Something that makes you think of your spouse and 3. Something that they would be happy to receive. The end result was hilarious, because at the dollar store you are pretty limited. Since I am borderline OCD my husband got me a feather duster. 🙂
The biggest reason you need date nights, in my opinion, is for your kids. Kids are not stupid. They can sense if their parents are not getting along or if there is tension in the air. Even if you have only an hour to have dinner together at home, take that hour to be together. Being present with your spouse is so limited these days with technology. Make sure you still see each other. Don’t forget that it is also important to spend time alone. You can read about that here.